I'm having trouble convincing my company to give my partner and me domestic partner benefits. They just started the program, but they have somewhat strict requirements about enrollment -- a shared bank account, a shared lease, or a shared mortgage. All of my partner's and my bills are separate and our bank statements come to different addresses. (They'd only consider bank statements 1 year old, anyway.) We've been living together for 8 years. Anybody have any ideas on how to convince them to permit us to enroll? Would "The Domestic Partnership Organizing Manual for Employee Benefits" book help in this case? (We don't own this book.) I don't subscribe to this list, so please cc me on any follow-ups. Thanks.