connecting a BEFW11S4 to a BEFSR41

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I contacted you about this problem earlier (last year) and I think I'm getting better ideas about what's going on.

I am trying to connect my BEFW11S4 Linksys router to my BEFSR41 Linksys router.  It never works and appears to flood the network.  I think it's trying to auto-negotiate and failing.

All of my network is a mixture of wireless running at 11Mbps and wired running at 10Mbps (not 100Mbps).  I suspect that once I try connecting to the other router, after the port has "learned" (via auto-negotiation) that it should be 10Mbps, it fails to negotiate to 100Mbps (which, I presume, the other router is running at).

Here are my questions:

1) Is there some way to "reset" a port so it must re-auto-negotiate its parameters (speed/duplex/etc.) ?  Hitting the reset button doesn't do it.  Shutting off the power to the router for a minute also doesn't seem to do it.  I haven't tried holding down the reset button, but I'm loath to do that since I would have to re-program everything.

2) Is there some way to disable auto-negotiation on a port and then configure that port's parameters (speed/duplex/etc.)?

Thanks.